Especially during these last busy days before Christmas, romantic encounters will follow more certainly when you surprise her with "gifts" of praise and practical help.

This week’s TIP:

Pre-Christmas "gifts" like these cost only your thoughtful effort, but will light her fire:

- Give here a child care break she isn't expecting

- If you host a Christmas party, make her sit down after the last guest leaves and give her a back or foot rub. Then help with the clean up in ways she wasn't expecting.

- Make a call or write a note or E-mail to her each day this week to praise her for a way she lights up your holiday.

- Make sure you help the children prepare their gift(s) for mom.

- Surprise her by arranging a time when together you will reach out to someone in need this Christmas.